Week 4 of marathon training complete!
Balancing Life, Marathon Training, and Planning a Wedding
Let me just say – it’s not easy. This is not a post about how I’m balancing it all perfectly and I’m not stressed at all and blah blah blah. It’s hard. There have been freak outs and lengthy text messages to my parents and frustrated phone calls to Justin and wanting to burst into tears on the subway because I’M JUST SO TIRED AND OMG HOW COME WE AREN’T MOVING AND I JUST WANT TO BE HOME AND EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING IS ANNOYING.
I didn’t plan on this – I received guaranteed entry to the NYC Marathon prior to getting engaged. Once I knew that running the marathon would also include planning a wedding, having a wedding, and going on a honeymoon, I sat down and listed the pros and cons of attempting to do it all vs. deferring to next year. Obviously, I decided on doing ALL THE THINGS… so here’s how I’m attempting to make it all work.
I Adjusted My Schedule
I’ve actually adjusted two schedules – my training schedule and my work schedule.
In terms of the training schedule, I took what I did for the NYCM back in 2014 and used it as a framework.
I decreased mileage where I could and adjusted some of the speed workouts since I’m most definitely not gunning for a PR this time around. I don’t want to be stressed about hitting certain times the day of the marathon or during training. I’m incorporating speed workouts but only going by feel and not by the number on my watch (I actually haven’t recorded a single pace in my records and don’t plan on doing so at any point during training).
I moved workouts around my wedding weekend and during my honeymoon to make training more manageable (I’ve got a 20 mile run between the wedding and honeymoon, two 10-mile runs during the honeymoon, and a final 20 miler when we get back to NY).
I’ve been doing the majority of my long runs on Friday morning to keep my weekends empty and stress-free. To do this, I’ve been working Friday afternoons only. I get my long run done in the morning, relax a bit at home, get to work by 12, and then leave work by 4. As my runs get longer, I have a few Fridays scheduled to be completely off. This has been a HUGE help in keeping me sane. I’m extremely lucky that I have the flexibility at work to do this, especially when I have an entire month(!) off for the wedding and honeymoon.
Another thing I’ve been doing much more frequently than ever before is working out before work Monday-Thursday. Usually I get to work by 8am and leave around 4. Lately, I’ve been running or doing another workout in the morning, getting to work between 9 and 9:30, and then leaving between 5 and 5:30. This frees up my afternoons so I can work on things with Justin, go to my dress fittings/alteration appointments, etc. It’s not my preferred time of day to work out but it’s been necessary this training cycle and I’m making it work.
I Keep Insanely Detailed Lists and Delegate Tasks
Lists, lists, and more lists! Google Docs up the whazoo!
We have a document/spreadsheet for:
- All invitations sent, who has RSVPed, and addresses
- All “yes” RSVPs
- All “to-do’s” before the wedding categorized by vendor and type of task
- A checklist of absolutely everything, no matter how small, that has to get done wedding weekend (Wednesday – Monday)
- All expenses for the wedding and all monetary gifts
- All expenses for the honeymoon and all honeyfund gifts/monetary gifts we are putting towards the honeymoon
- All thank you cards already sent and thank you’s that will need to be sent
I have folders in my gmail for absolutely everything wedding-related (photography, music, hair/makeup, venue, hotels, honeymoon, gifts, rehearsal dinner, etc.) and have never deleted a single one. Each e-mail gets filed in the appropriate folder so it can be referred to at a later date.
At first, I was struggling with all these “lists,” especially since Justin and I have very different ideas on what document format makes sense, but I’ve got it all under control now. Phew!
Another thing I’m getting better at doing is delegating certain tasks to other people – my parents, Justin, our week-of wedding planner (who has graciously offered to help even before that week!). It is OKAY to ask for help. It will be TOTALLY FINE if someone else puts the pictures in my bouquet charms or assembles the restroom baskets or calls the hotel to confirm who has already booked.
There are certain things I feel more comfortable doing myself (like our scrapbook), but I went through the list of to-do’s and marked off things that could be delegated to others and OMG it alleviated so much stress. People want to help – let them.
I Cut Myself Some Slack
Planning a wedding is hard. Marathon training is hard. Work is hard. Life is hard. IT’S ALL SO HARD. #whydidieverwanttobeanadult
But that is why I’m doing my best to cut myself some slack. It’s okay if I have to adjust a workout because I’m too tired for what is scheduled or I don’t have time for 5 miles before work and can only squeeze in 3. It’s okay if I have to make a cup of coffee before work instead of my usual decaf tea. It’s okay if I fall asleep at 8:30pm on my birthday. It’s okay if I want to go into a murderous rage when someone who fell asleep before me, woke up after me, worked the same number of hours, and didn’t run, tells me they’re tired (coughcoughJustincoughcough).
It’s all okay. I’m one person. The wedding will be here in 5 weeks and it won’t matter whose handwriting is on the escort cards or if every welcome bag is exactly the same. The wedding will be perfect because at the end of it, I’ll be married to Justin. The marathon will be great because, while I might be a little biased, NYC is the best marathon in the world and it’ll be my celebratory 26.2-mile party at the end of all this craziness.
I’ve got this.
If anyone has any other tips for how to handle these last few weeks of wedding planning – please send them my way!