How I’m managing life, marathon training, and planning a wedding.

Week 4 of marathon training complete!

Balancing Life, Marathon Training, and Planning a Wedding

Let me just say – it’s not easy. This is not a post about how I’m balancing it all perfectly and I’m not stressed at all and blah blah blah. It’s hard. There have been freak outs and lengthy text messages to my parents and frustrated phone calls to Justin and wanting to burst into tears on the subway because I’M JUST SO TIRED AND OMG HOW COME WE AREN’T MOVING AND I JUST WANT TO BE HOME AND EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING IS ANNOYING.

I didn’t plan on this – I received guaranteed entry to the NYC Marathon prior to getting engaged. Once I knew that running the marathon would also include planning a wedding, having a wedding, and going on a honeymoon, I sat down and listed the pros and cons of attempting to do it all vs. deferring to next year. Obviously, I decided on doing ALL THE THINGS… so here’s how I’m attempting to make it all work.

I Adjusted My Schedule

I’ve actually adjusted two schedules – my training schedule and my work schedule.

In terms of the training schedule, I took what I did for the NYCM back in 2014 and used it as a framework.

I decreased mileage where I could and adjusted some of the speed workouts since I’m most definitely not gunning for a PR this time around. I don’t want to be stressed about hitting certain times the day of the marathon or during training. I’m incorporating speed workouts but only going by feel and not by the number on my watch (I actually haven’t recorded a single pace in my records and don’t plan on doing so at any point during training).

I moved workouts around my wedding weekend and during my honeymoon to make training more manageable (I’ve got a 20 mile run between the wedding and honeymoon, two 10-mile runs during the honeymoon, and a final 20 miler when we get back to NY).

I’ve been doing the majority of my long runs on Friday morning to keep my weekends empty and stress-free. To do this, I’ve been working Friday afternoons only. I get my long run done in the morning, relax a bit at home, get to work by 12, and then leave work by 4. As my runs get longer, I have a few Fridays scheduled to be completely off. This has been a HUGE help in keeping me sane. I’m extremely lucky that I have the flexibility at work to do this, especially when I have an entire month(!) off for the wedding and honeymoon.

Another thing I’ve been doing much more frequently than ever before is working out before work Monday-Thursday. Usually I get to work by 8am and leave around 4. Lately, I’ve been running or doing another workout in the morning, getting to work between 9 and 9:30, and then leaving between 5 and 5:30. This frees up my afternoons so I can work on things with Justin, go to my dress fittings/alteration appointments, etc. It’s not my preferred time of day to work out but it’s been necessary this training cycle and I’m making it work.

I Keep Insanely Detailed Lists and Delegate Tasks

Lists, lists, and more lists! Google Docs up the whazoo!

We have a document/spreadsheet for:

  • All invitations sent, who has RSVPed, and addresses
  • All “yes” RSVPs
  • All “to-do’s” before the wedding categorized by vendor and type of task
  • A checklist of absolutely everything, no matter how small, that has to get done wedding weekend (Wednesday – Monday)
  • All expenses for the wedding and all monetary gifts
  • All expenses for the honeymoon and all honeyfund gifts/monetary gifts we are putting towards the honeymoon
  • All thank you cards already sent and thank you’s that will need to be sent

I have folders in my gmail for absolutely everything wedding-related (photography, music, hair/makeup, venue, hotels, honeymoon, gifts, rehearsal dinner, etc.) and have never deleted a single one. Each e-mail gets filed in the appropriate folder so it can be referred to at a later date.

At first, I was struggling with all these “lists,” especially since Justin and I have very different ideas on what document format makes sense, but I’ve got it all under control now. Phew!

Another thing I’m getting better at doing is delegating certain tasks to other people – my parents, Justin, our week-of wedding planner (who has graciously offered to help even before that week!). It is OKAY to ask for help. It will be TOTALLY FINE if someone else puts the pictures in my bouquet charms or assembles the restroom baskets or calls the hotel to confirm who has already booked.

There are certain things I feel more comfortable doing myself (like our scrapbook), but I went through the list of to-do’s and marked off things that could be delegated to others and OMG it alleviated so much stress. People want to help – let them.

I Cut Myself Some Slack

Planning a wedding is hard. Marathon training is hard. Work is hard. Life is hard. IT’S ALL SO HARD. #whydidieverwanttobeanadult

But that is why I’m doing my best to cut myself some slack. It’s okay if I have to adjust a workout because I’m too tired for what is scheduled or I don’t have time for 5 miles before work and can only squeeze in 3. It’s okay if I have to make a cup of coffee before work instead of my usual decaf tea. It’s okay if I fall asleep at 8:30pm on my birthday. It’s okay if I want to go into a murderous rage when someone who fell asleep before me, woke up after me, worked the same number of hours, and didn’t run, tells me they’re tired (coughcoughJustincoughcough).

It’s all okay. I’m one person. The wedding will be here in 5 weeks and it won’t matter whose handwriting is on the escort cards or if every welcome bag is exactly the same. The wedding will be perfect because at the end of it, I’ll be married to Justin. The marathon will be great because, while I might be a little biased, NYC is the best marathon in the world and it’ll be my celebratory 26.2-mile party at the end of all this craziness.

I’ve got this.


If anyone has any other tips for how to handle these last few weeks of wedding planning – please send them my way!

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Week 3 of NYCM training and training with your pup!

NYCM Week 3 Training

It was definitely a better week of training than week 2 but OH MY GOD can we talk about how horrible that 12 mile run was? Friday morning had crazy thunderstorms that were moving through the area quickly. I wanted to be running by 7/7:30 but decided to wait out the storms. Well, this resulted in not starting until after 8:30, making the run way too hot and humid to even remotely be considered comfortable on what was supposed to be a “level 5” run.

Looking back, I probably should have started my run on the treadmill and then hopped off once the storms passed. By mile 9, the only way I was making it home was via run/walk. I ran 8 minutes and walked 2 until hitting mile 12 a block or so from my apartment. Good grief.

Training with your Dog

Every time we bring Mr Big to the vet for his annual, we are told he’s the epitome of health. “He’s in such great shape!” “We can’t believe he’s 9!” “He has so much energy!”

Yes – he is, us either, he does.

In addition to Big eating good food and being spoiled with an insane amount of love, he exercises… a lot.

But he recovers well too, don’t worry.

He’s such a country dog 🙂

Anywho, speaking of doggy fitness, PuppySpot, a service committed to placing healthy puppies into loving homes, created the below guide for how to include your four-legged friend in your workout.

When Mr Big isn’t chasing squirrels, birds, or the gopher at our upstate house, he loves to run alongside me for a few miles.

A few years ago, I posted some tips for running with your dog based on my experience running with Big and they all still apply. I’ve learned one more thing now that Big is a little older so I’d add one tip to that list – be mindful of pace!

If I let Big control the pace, he’d begin every run all out. If I let him do that (and it’s a pace that is okay for me), I’ll be dragging him back to the house after the turn-around point. Now, I only bring him on my recovery runs, which are anywhere between 2 and 4 miles, and always at a relaxed pace. I have to keep him back the first few miles because he wants to go-go-go but if I didn’t, he wouldn’t have the oomph to finish up strong and feeling good.

The last time I took Big on a 4 mile run, he came home, drank some water, and then spent the next 30 minutes chasing squirrels around the yard so I know our pace was just right (he spent the rest of the day on the couch snoozing though lol).

Luckily for Mr Big, we’ve got lots of running to do in the next few weeks – week 4 of marathon training is underway!


Wishing you and your pup lots of exercising fun 🙂

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A NYC Bachelorette.

Week 2 of NYC Marathon training:

It wasn’t my best week. I had lots of things going on and certain things (ahem strength training and yoga) took a back seat. It’s okay and I’m back on it for week 3!

My Bachelorette Party!

Up until late last week, I knew absolutely nothing about my bachelorette party aside from the date (much like my bridal shower). It wasn’t until Thursday/Friday that I was told a time to be ready and what to bring besides myself. I’m going to be honest – I’m not the easiest person to plan something like this for; I’m not into clubs or bars all that much, I have a 17 year-old cousin who I wanted at everything, and I’m just generally awkward when it comes to typical bachelorette situations. BUT my two cousins are absolute champs and planned the perfect day/night for me and the ladies I love most.

Part 1: Nails and Champagne in Chelsea

Getting my nails done is one of my favorite indulgences so starting my bachelorette in a nail salon was absolutely perfect. We got pampered and drank a little champagne and I had zero complaints 🙂

Part 2: Drinks & Games at the Gansevoort Hotel

My cousins got to the room early and spent time decorating the space with all sorts of goodies. There was confetti (omg so much confetti, I’m still finding it in odd places…), banners, booze, penis straws, TEAM BRIDE sunglasses and buttons, shirts for everyone, and of course, an inappropriate game.

I’m way too awkward and just couldn’t handle the thought of a penis drawing on my blog…

Before heading out for dinner, we set up our own photo booth and snapped some shots. Most of us were already a few drinks in by this point and it completely felt like I was back in college, getting ready and pre-gaming with my favorite ladies.

Part 3: Dinner at Carmine’s

Carmine’s is one of my favorite restaurants so it was very fitting that this is the place my cousins chose for dinner. One of my best friends from college couldn’t make the bachelorette but she sent a gift card for us to use at Carmine’s (I made sure not to open it until dinner so I didn’t ruin the surprise!).

I got right on ordering the frozen cosmo (the BEST – but also super strong so I was a drunko in no time).

There were 8 of us and we had a few things to consider (someone who doesn’t eat meat, someone with celiac, someone with seafood allergies) so our menu consisted of:

  • Misto salad
  • Chicken parm
  • Prime rib special (GF)
  • GF giardiniera pasta
  • Linguini pomodoro
  • Eggplant parm

As always as usual, everything was unbelievably delicious. With all the drinks flowing, conversation got quite inappropriate (#sorrynotsorry, neighboring tables) and before we knew it, it was time to rush off to the next activity.

Part 4: Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man

We got to the theater with just enough time to get inside, get our drinks, and get situated in our seats. We had a bachelorette package which included front row seats in the “wet zone” (splash zone? IDK), a drink for everyone, a bottle of champagne and flutes for the group, and a promise that I would get on stage during the performance.

After the show, we were invited on stage for a photo (apparently this is also included in the package) and I just felt so lucky to have all these amazing ladies with me for the evening.

The show was absolutely hilarious, the perfect amount of raunchy, and for some of us, legitimately informative (lol). We had such a fun time and enjoyed every minute; but even if the show wasn’t as great as it was, it’d have been worth it for the last 2 minutes alone (oh dear lordy, it would have been worth it…).

Part 5: Night Cap

When we got back to the hotel, some of the group headed home and the rest of us, still on a “Stefan-high,” headed out for one more drink.  It was the latest I have stayed out up in what could honestly be years. #worthit

Part 6: Girl Talk & Sleep

Is there anything better than laying in bed with the lights off and talking and giggling with your best girls? This happens less and less as we get older and have lives and families outside of our friends but god damnit it is so incredible and we all need more of it.

Sunday Surprise

Surprisingly enough, come Sunday morning, Justin and I were in decent enough shape that we didn’t need to spend the entire day in fetal position on our couch (his bachelor party was also Saturday night). We weren’t at our best but we did have things to do and we ended up at our upstate house to surprise my parents with a completely unannounced visit!

They were super shocked and happy to see us and we ended up staying for a nice lunch and a little sun and relaxation before heading back to the city for dinner.

And then? Then we needed a weekend from our weekend…


Next week: week 3 of marathon training and how I’m attempting to balance it all.

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